Wednesday, October 1, 2008

The New Boo

Yes it's true. I have a new boo! He's sweet. He's smart. He's creative. And he's a cutie (just how I like 'em!) Still I'm going slow with this one--trying to learn from past mistakes, you know. But I have to wonder, do we ever really learn? When it comes to matters of the heart, no matter how cautious and controlled you attempt to be, at some point all logic and common sense are going to evaporate and you are going to go with what you're feeling? Right? Or is it possible to date someone and keep yourself detached long enough to find out if he is worth your time and energy? Or is it a cruel joke that the only way to really know if he's worth it, if the relationship can go the distance, is to go for it, jump in, enjoy the ride? Who knows? Definitely not me. I just know what mistakes I've made in the past and they are as follows:
  • Taken people for face value and not letting hem prove their intentions
  • Moving too damn fast
  • Jumping in the bed too damn soon
  • Ignoring idiosyncrasies and character flaws
  • Introducing him to family and friends when we have only been dating for a few months
  • Allowing him to be a distraction from my work and responsibilities
So this time out I will do the opposite or at least try to. The only good thing is that I'm not "head over heels" for this guy. Well at least not yet. And to tell you the truth I hope I don't become "head over heels" anytime soon. It's too time consuming and exhausting if you ask me. I like him. He likes me. That's enough. All that intense intimacy-can't live without you- you are the air I breathe -I need you -gotta have it stuff is not appealing to me. At all. What is appealing is getting to know someone new, enjoying his company, cherishing the time we spend together. That's it for now. Which is good, even great for me because I tend to over romanticize things. I mean I've been seeing this guy for a few weeks now and I'm fine with everything. The old me would have already started shopping for wedding dresses. The new me? Just shopping for movie tickets! I guess I'm growing up after all.

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